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Wednesday, September 27th, 2006
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11:26 am - How To Be A Better Couple
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10 steps to enjoying each other better...
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials! or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your favourite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together. Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show your love. Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear (like for decoration purposes), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel unhappy and she might think that u saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on your jealousy.
All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads through the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep your commitments to each other. If your partner is standing you up all the time and canceling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you're hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with your partner, who can u be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
Okay another one of these soppy things from me. Its from someone's Xanga site.
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| Friday, August 18th, 2006
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5:28 pm - Something to think about
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I got this in an email from a friend...
There once was a little boy who had ! a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.
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| Wednesday, June 21st, 2006
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11:28 pm - Another Quiz Time
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http://www.soulmark.com/survey/SURVEY.ASP
A Guardian is a natural born protector; you just can't help but look out for your friends, watch their backs and catch them when they stumble. The strongest of the Soulmarks, the Guardian Soulmark is based on power, strength and stability, always looking forward, always covering all angles.
Angel of the universe, protector of the weak, defender of all that is good and real, you shield the inhabitants of your world from the perils of damaged dreams, broken hearts and bad advice.
You’re the dude at the party that never has any time to party. Surrounded by lost souls and shattered hearts, you’re the one spending precious social hours listening to your buddies’ sob stories and dishing out the much needed advice. You’re sweet with the responsibility – a sensitive, generous and analytical soul, you don’t mind using your strengths to help guide others through the minefields of life.
When someone’s got something on their mind, they’ll gravitate towards the Guardian. You genuinely give a damn about the people in your life and you will go out of your way to help out wherever you can. Friends chill when they’re hanging with the Guardian – they can rely on you and trust you
A cool, calm and confident customer, you demand and get attention whenever you enter a room. When you speak, the people listen. Everyone in the zoo knows who you are and the value of your much practiced wisdom.
Chaos, pandemonium and turmoil have no place in your world. When drama appears on your horizon, you use your head to work out logical solutions. A hysterical meltdown is of no help when you’re trying to work the complexities of the world.
Whilst you’re a great listener, talking or dealing with your own emotions is draining and difficult - you find that side of things awkward, uncomfortable and overwhelming. You can work through it though – when you’re given enough space and time you can cope with pretty much whatever comes your way.
Your Guardian Soulmark Pendant will connect perfectly with the Celebrity Soulmark Pendant – the closer the fit, the more certain you can be that you’ve hooked up with your Soulmark Match. The warm, generous heart of a Celebrity should gel perfectly with your own sensitive soul and you may find yourself spending many an hour in Guardian mode with one particularly special Celebrity.
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| Saturday, May 27th, 2006
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9:48 am - I haven't done a quiz in a while. Hehehe
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| You Belong in London |  A little old fashioned, and a little modern. A little traditional, and a little bit punk rock. A unique woman like you needs a city that offers everything. No wonder you and London will get along so well. |
| You Are Boyish Sexy |  You're the kind of girl who gets along with all the boys Whether it's holding your own in a game of touch football... Or kicking some major butt while playing Xbox. You hang with the guys easily, while still keeping your girly sexiness. |
Okay thats not the real thing that I wanted to talk about today. I want to talk about the Cash Converters Financing Centre advertisement. You are probably thinkg what is she going on about. Well lets see here...
Australia is one of the worst cuplrits when it comes to not being able to save money. Australians run massive debts over the financia year and a lot of the time, they are not able to pay it off during the given time so they have to pay additional interest on top of the debt already owed which they can't afford. And to make things worse, they have Cash Converters ads sending a message to people that if yoy get yourself a really hot date and she expects a flash dinner then you should borrow money from them for that occasion.
What kind of a message are they sending to people??? First of all, if you can't afford a flash restaurant then take the girl somewhere more affordable. If she can't accept it, then she may not be the girl for you.
I know that sometimes it is good to have a place to borrow money from when you really need it for a one off occasion but people should not be living most of their lives worrying about how they are going to live for the next few months while trying to pay off their debts. In MOST (not all) cases people get themselves into trouble with buying things that they don't need instead of focusing on the stuff that they do.
I honestly don't think that advertisements like that should be allowed to be aired on tv. It sends out bad messages. Okay tell me what you guys thing about this. I am all up for constructive criticism :)
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| Friday, May 19th, 2006
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4:16 pm - Words beginning with 'O' as been given by always_sakura
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1. Obsession- okay I can't get this word out of my head. Probably cause I have a few :)
2. Orli (aka Orlando Bloom)- Okay he was never going to escape my list :P
3. Okra- one of my fave veggies fried with potatoes.
4. Oranges- I love orange flavoured lollies and especially jelly.
5. Originality- I totally believe in individuality so stuff all the clones in the world. We don't need everyone looking n dressing the same.
5. Oreos- They just taste so damn fine.
6. Orin- My cousin. He can be a pain in the butt sometimes but he always looks out for me and feeds me too much food, especially junk food and he is only 10.
7. Operation- I guess its something I have always been scared of.
8. Orangutan- They are just too cute. Well I think so anyways.
9. Organic- I guess I should eat more organic food but they cost more and I am a poor uni student :P
10. Orthodontist- Okay after having braces for 15 months, I could not forget the guy.
Okay I am just looking at my list and food as always plays a big part in my life. Hehehe. So tell me what you think.
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| Sunday, April 30th, 2006
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12:04 pm - My first written piece
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We are two worlds apart. You and your easy going ways, Driving me completely insane. Me and my planned life, Which always ends in disarray. But somehow I seem to be drawn to you; No matter what I try to do, I can’t seem to get you out of my mind.
My head tells me that we are so wrong for each other; But my heart tells me that we would be perfect together; I am so lost and confused. So why does it feel so wrong to love you? It seems insane to love you the way I do.
The hardest thing for me has been to see you everyday And not really be able to tell you how I truly feel. I try my best to not have these feelings for you; And sometimes I feel that I am in control But the moment I see you, I lose myself to the moment.
How can it be that you have changed my world so much? My life use to be so simple Then you came into my life and made things more complicated So now everything I do Seems to be revolved around you.
I want to be back in control of my life But it seems I cannot do this Until the day I tell you how I feel. I am scared to tell you the truth I’m afraid that you will break my heart. But now is the time to really know. So please stop my pain and confusion And tell me how you feel.
Okay someone please give me some feedback. I kinda feel shame actually posting this. But I must be brave. Hehehe.
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| Friday, April 21st, 2006
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7:57 pm - Before I die, I want to....
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I got tagged by Neela on Xanga so here goes:
1. Travel the world and experience different cultures and FOOD!!!
2. Have a great job that I love so that I can also buy nice house n car for the family.
3. Get married and have kids and pets
4. Adopt a child
5. Have a kick ass job that I love
6. Donate Blood
7. Climb the different landmarks around the world
8. Help poor people. One day go to an aids mission and help out. You get to experience everything first hand rather than just read about it.
9. Invest in a successful business and buy investment property
10. Do some advanced classes in sewing, cooking, craft, etc
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| Wednesday, April 12th, 2006
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11:29 am - Another thing that might make you smile :)
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Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one.........IT DOES MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD specially the thought at the end.
1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket
5. A special glance.
6. Getting mail
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favourite song on the radio. 9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Chocolate milkshake. (or vanilla!) (or strawberry) 12. A bubble bath.
13. Giggling. 14. A good conversation.
15. The beach
16. Finding a $20 note in your coat from last winter. 17. Laughing at yourself. 19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours. 20. Running through sprinklers. 21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful. 23. Laughing at an inside joke.
24. Friends. 25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep. 27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones. 29. Playing with a new puppy.
30. Having someone play with your hair.
31. Sweet dreams.
32. Hot chocolate.
33. Road trips with friends.
34. Swinging on swings.
35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger
36. Making chocolate chip cookies. 37. Having your friends send you home-made cookies. 38. Holding hands with someone you care about.
39. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change. 40. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
41. Watching the sunrise or sunset. 42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
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| Monday, April 10th, 2006
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8:38 am - Why Guy likes Girls
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Okay I am feelin a lil soppy and while deleting some emails from hotmail I came across this so I thought that I would keep it here. Here are a few reasons (not that I agree with all of them)... Why guys like girls:
1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo
2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder
3. How cute they look when they sleep
4. The ease in which they fit into our arms
5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while
8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 30 outside
9. The way they look good no matter what they wear
10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth
11. How cute they are when they argue
12. The way her hand always finds yours
13. The way they smile
14. The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight
15. The way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know that an hour later....
16. The way they kiss when you do something nice for them
17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you"
18. Actually ... just the way they kiss you...
19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry
20. Then the way they apologize for crying ! over something that silly
21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt.(even though we don't admit it)!
23. The way they say "I miss you"
24. The way you miss them
25. The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore..... Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them ... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling. Only felt.
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| Saturday, April 8th, 2006
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5:37 pm - So True!!!
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Over the years. You learn from your mistakes. You lose friendships that mean the most to you. You get your heart broken repeatedly. You lose yourself. And you find you again. New friendships appear out of abnormal and unusual circumstances. Often when you need them the most. The shoulder you sometimes cry on, is not the one you would expect. Counting on the wrong people is to be expected. You discover, over time, not all promises are meant to be broken. Just the ones that were said with a untrue heart. Sometimes it’s alright to give your all, and get nothing in return. Because that’s how you learn. That’s how you grow. That’s how you become who you are. You will get broken. You will break someone else. Its inevitable. Life can not be lived with out regrets or consequences. Ups and Downs. Its all a part of life. You learn that not everyone is what they put themselves off to be. Hypocrites are everywhere. People who contradict their words with their actions. People who use you just for a little while, until they are bored or satisfied with what they got. And then they drop you. And that’s ok. Because, who wants them in your life anyways? “friends” will be there, until you need them. Enemys are killed with kindness. Words may hurt you, but silence from the one you love, will completely break your heart in two. Love will always find away. God is always here. There is someone you can count on, and optimism is the only way to get what you want out of life. Happiness. Love. Satisfaction. And the peace of your heart and mind. One thing is for sure, never give up, never give in… and don’t wait until its too late.
Okay I did not write this. I got it from Dulla's Xanga site from way back. But he took it from someone else's site. Hehehe
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| Friday, March 31st, 2006
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3:21 pm - Emotional Intelligence Test
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Just attempt the assessment, and then scale it yourself. At the end of test go and check results. Find out where you stand for your own sake.
Rate each question below on a scale 1-5, according to how true it of of you. Write the appropriate number in the space before each question. Use number that corresponds to the scale below: Once you check your score in each area, we will immediately know where you stand and if any improvement require in any of these area you can work out yourself. It is the easiest way for self assessment and give yourself a go. Just print out, do your own assessment, score and check it.
1 2 3 4 5 never rarely sometime usually always
______ 1) I am aware of the physical reactions (twings, aches, sudden change) that signal a " gut reaction"
______ 2) I readily admit mistake and apologize.
______ 3) I let go of problems, anger, or hurts from the past and I can move beyond these.
______ 4) I generally an accurate idea of how another person perceive me during a particular interaction (discussion, communication)
______ 5) I have several important things in my life that am enthusiastic about, and I let it show.
______ 6) I can easily meet and initiate conversation with new people when I have to.
______ 7) I take a break or use another active method of increasing energy when I sense that my energy level is low.
______ 8) I have little trouble taking prudent risk
______ 9) I “open up” with people appropriately – not too much but enough so that I don’t come across as cold and distant.
_______ 10) I can engage in an interaction with another and pretty well size-up that person’s mood based on non-verbal signals.
_______ 11) Others feel inspired and encouraged after talking to me.
_______ 12) I don’t have trouble making presentations in front of groups or conducting meetings.
_______ 13) I take time every day for quiet reflection.
_______ 14) I take initiative and move ahead on task that need to be done.
_______ 15) I refrain from making up my mind on issues and expressing my opinion until I have all the facts.
______ 16) I have a number of people I can turn to, and I ask for their help when I need it.
_______ 17) I try to find the positive in any given situation
______ 18) I can deal calmly, sensitively, and proactively with emotional displays of others.
______ 19) I can identify the emotion I am feeling at any given moment.
______ 20) I am generally comfortable in new situation.
______ 21) I neither bury my anger nor let it explode on others.
_______ 22) I can show empathy and match my feelings with those of another person in an interaction.
_______ 23) I can keep going in big project despite obstacle.
24) I am respected and liked by others, even when they don’t agree with me.
_______ 25) I am clear about my own goals and values.
_______ 26) I express my views honestly and thoughtfully, without being pushy.
_______ 27) I am good at managing my moods and I refrain from bringing negative emotions to work, social life or within family affairs.
_______ 28) I focus my full attention on another person when I listen to them.
______ 29) I believe the work I do day –to- day has meaning and value to the society.
______ 30) I can effectively persuade others to adopt my point of view without coercing them.
Score- 1 – 5 for all of the above and move to next page.
Scoring the EQ Self Assessment Checklist: 1. Enter your ratings for each numbered question in the category where it appears. 2. Add the ratings for each category to obtain a total for that specific facet of EQ.
Self Awareness:
1._____
7.______
13._____
19._____
25._____
Total Self Awareness ____
Self Confidence:
2._______
8. _______
14. ______
20. ______
26. _______
Total Self confidence -------------
Self Control:
4. _________
9. __________
15. _________
21. _________
27. _________
Total self control -------------
Empathy:
4. ________
10. ________
16. ________
22. ________
28. ________
Total Empathy -----------
Motivation:
5. _______
11. ______
17. ______
23. _______
29. _______
Total Motivation _____
Social Competency:
6. ______
12. _______
18. _______
24. _______
30. ________
Total Social Competency ________
I have to admit that I actualy haven't done the test yet but I will once I finish off with my busy schedule by the end of the week hopefully.
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| Tuesday, March 28th, 2006
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6:24 pm - Some facts about Australia
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Okay I know this doesn't really interest most people but I like to know what's going on with the economy considering I use to be an economic student back in the days of High school. God I feel old. Hehehe.
Key findings of Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development's annual factbook comparison of where Australia stands in terms of the world's rich nations
* Australians most likely of all OECD members to be victims of serious crimes including those of victims of assaults, threats and crimes of a sexual nature, the second highest proportion of burglaries, and high rates of robberies, car thefts and thefts from cars- Thats pretty scary!!!
* Australian economy 12th largest in world, with 11th highest GDP per capita ($US31,231).
* During the past 12 years, the OECD estimates the Australian economy was the eighth fastest growing economy in the world - only behind China, Ireland, India, South Korea, Poland and the Slovak Republic.
*Australia's household savings rate, the proportion of income put away for a rainy day, was the only country among 15 rich nations that was in negative territory- I always knew that Aussies sucked at saving after hearing about the credit card debt most people seem to be in.
* Average Australian works 1,816 hours a year in 2004, up from 1,814 hours in 2003. Hardest workers are South Koreans who work average year of 2,423 hours.
* There are 635 vehicles for every 1,000 people in Australia, the seventh-highest rate of vehicle ownership in the developed world.
* Australia was the fifth most generous nation, behind the US, Japan, Germany and France, with total aid commitments so far of almost $US200 million.
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| Monday, January 30th, 2006
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4:38 pm - Waa long time huh?
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Enneagram Test Results | Type 1 | Perfectionism | |||||||||||||||||| | 73% | | Type 2 | Helpfulness | |||||||||||||| | 53% | | Type 3 | Image Awareness | |||||||||||||| | 56% | | Type 4 | Sensitivity | |||| | 16% | | Type 5 | Detachment | |||||| | 23% | | Type 6 | Anxiety | |||||||||||||| | 53% | | Type 7 | Adventurousness | |||||| | 30% | | Type 8 | Aggressiveness | |||||||||| | 33% | | Type 9 | Calmness | |||||||||||| | 43% | Your main type is 1 Your variant is social | Take Free Enneagram Personality Testpersonality tests by similarminds.com
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| Monday, November 7th, 2005
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9:12 am - Beautiful Love
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I guess they got some of it right. I mean with the rude people thing. Hehehehe
 You want a Beautiful love, soft but passionate. You are probably very old fashioned and polite. You can't stand rude people, wolf whistles are to you only dis-respective and immature. You love nature and everything beautiful in life. You will fall for a guy that makes you forget about the rest of the world.
Please rate aaaaand... eat chocolate bars? *cough*rate*cough* ^^
What Love are you Fated for? ~AWESOME anime pics!~ brought to you by Quizilla
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| Saturday, November 5th, 2005
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10:22 am - Busy Busy Busy!!!
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So much stuff to do and thats the same for everyone I know. Grrrrrr
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| Thursday, November 3rd, 2005
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1:50 pm - Happy Tihar Peoples!!!
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Today is Tihar. Tihar, the festival of lights is one of the most dazzling of all Hindu festivals. There is a story, which tells why this revelry is celebrated so widely. Once there was a king who was living his last days of life. His astrologer had told him that a serpent would come and take his life away. The king did not want to die so he has asked the astrologer if there was any way to escape death. The king was advised to sleep with lit oil lamps all around his bed and decorate the palace with oil lamps on laxmi puja day. So goddess laxmi would talk to the serpent not to take his life. It did happen, the serpent was convinced by goddess laxmi. The serpent took the king to Yama Raj and told him that it was not yet the king's time to come to the underworld. So Yama Raj opened his ledger and in it the kings remaining age was written zero, but the serpent cleverly put seven before zero. Thus the king lived for seventy more years. So onwards tihar is widely celebrated worshipping the underworld and goddess laxmi.
For the full details of the festival, go and check out my Xanga site: www.xanga.com/Sw333t_DreamZ
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| Friday, October 28th, 2005
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4:35 pm - My first quiz ^_^
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How cool is it that I love baking and eating baked food and that I get a baking result. Yay for me :)
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| Thursday, October 27th, 2005
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3:11 pm - Hey hey
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Hi, this is my first go at using Live Journal. Okay I have no idea what I am doing. Kazi help me!!!
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